Cristen

Excellent. Well, I’ve got one here from Nick. This is in response to our podcast on body language. He wanted to describe the way he first met his now girlfriend who he is madly in love with. Here’s the story. He says we were on the same couch with her legs facing away from me with her torso in a neural facing position. The eye contact was not constant and the arms were mostly busied and/or crossed throughout our initial conversation. Laughs and smiles on her behalf were minimal and professional as well. It was very much a situation where all signs were pointed to mediocrity in terms of body language. What did give her away was the slight anxiety I could sense in her general behavior. She’s a strong woman and that was clearly a sign of her being at least very concerned in how she was presenting herself to me.

I instinctively read her tell and persisted to display my inviting body language along with pleasant conversation to open her up. In the end, I was right. We were both very attracted to one another on many levels initially, but her body language strongly masked this. If I hadn’t continued with my agenda we would have never gone further to fall deeply in love. So 1) Nick, kudos to your insight and 2) Congrats on your being in love because that’s precious and it’s spring time.

Molly

But he does have a lesson. You can – there is more than one tell.

Cristen

Yes. And it’s not just a head cant, so guys if the lady’s not canting doesn’t mean you can’t win her over.

Molly

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